Montana woman plans to buy vibrators for her daughters to make sex ‘less tempting’
A mother has controversially claimed that she plans to buy vibrators for her two daughters who are currently eight and one year old.
Stephanie Land, 37, a writer from Missoula, MT, hopes that by providing her daughters with vibrators – and a “used copy” of Our Bodies, Our Selves – sex will be “less tempting” as they will know ” to please yourself ” ‘.
Explaining her decision in an article for She Knows, the single mother, who survived domestic violence, said that at the age of 17, sex had become an “addiction” because she was not. aware of masturbation.
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Straight up: Writer Stephanie Land, from Missoula, MT, pictured breastfeeding, plans to provide her two daughters, currently eight and one, with vibrators
Educational: Stephanie, pictured, also plans to give her daughters a ‘used copy’ of Our Bodies, Our Selves
By giving her daughters the knowledge of “self-pleasure”, she hopes that when her children have sex, it will be “breathtaking” and “unbelievable”.
âI believe girls shouldn’t just learn that sex is fun with partners; they should learn to have fun first, âshe wrote.
“Besides having a used copy of Our Bodies, Our Selves, my daughters will be getting vibrators.”
Suggesting reading material for children, she said her daughter should âlet off steamâ by reading Forever, Judy Blume, The Basketball Diaries and learning about their clits in Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation.
She added, “Wouldn’t an impatient boy’s erection be a little less tempting (if it’s tempting at all) when countered by knowing what good sex could really look like?”
By experiencing orgasms on her own first, she hopes it will make her daughters more assertive.
She said: “I hope my daughter will be able to say ‘no’ and will not say ‘yes’ until she is ready. I hope she says ‘yes’ breathlessly and loudly. and not in a silent absence for fear of saying “no”.
“I want her to have mind-blowing, amazing sex, and she won’t know what to do unless she knows how to have it with herself first.”
Bold: Writer, from Missoula, MT, hopes move will make his daughters more assertive when they have sex with another person
In the article titled Why I Buy My Daughters Their Own Vibrators, she said her eight-year-old daughter knew about the reproductive process but at the moment she believed her mother had only had sex for two. times.
Stephanie said she had not yet explained that it could also be “enjoyable”.
At the end of her first sexual encounter, she was like a “nervous person looking for a solution” as the feelings she was experiencing “came out of nowhere.”
She said she had “no idea” of how to recreate those feelings for herself, adding, “I only knew he made me feel something that I had never felt before and I could only get that feeling from him. ”
She said she knew the rebellion and birth control talks would “come” in five to ten years, but was “eager” to teach her daughter how to masturbation which she grew up thinking. that she was a “sin”.
She said sex education – incorporating rape culture in “age-appropriate ways” must begin in kindergarten and unwelcome sex should not be part of the growing adolescent experience.
Critics say that while his plans are well-intentioned, they are borderline âfrighteningâ and âinvasiveâ.
Writer Alexandra Carlton urged Stephanie on Kidspot to stop trying to be a ‘cool mom’
She wrote, “Let her do some of that awkward, awkward experimentation and, yes, even mistakes on her own, when she wants it, how she wants it, when the time is right.”
“What if she doesn’t WANT a vibrator at 16, 17 or 18?” What if that just wasn’t where she headed yet?
âI know your intentions are good, but respect your daughter’s autonomy. Otherwise, you’re a little better than the boys who are going to want to take a part of it too.
StÃ©phanie seems to be evangelical about the merits of vibrators.
In a previous article for the Huffington Post, she described in detail how she used a “six-inch purple silicone bunny” on her nipple to unblock it when she was breastfeeding.
âI believe girls shouldn’t just learn that sex is fun with partners; they should first learn to have fun
In the article, she also describes how she bought the vibrator after finding out she was pregnant, as she doubted that telling a man she was pregnant “would lead to sexy times.”
Stephanie told Daily Mail Online that she wrote the article on why she wanted to give her daughters vibrators in reaction to others that have been posted on “Very young ages girls were starting to have sexual activities “.
She said that in the context of sexting and girls “doing sex acts that are mainly for the pleasure of men”, girls need to learn “what feels good sexually” for themselves so that when they have sex. sexual relations, they are “empowered enough to expect from their partners.”
She added: “And hopefully engage in sex acts at a later age, when they are ready and have a better understanding of their own bodies.”
Stephanie said the article was “very controversial” and the response was “crazy”.
She said she had “no idea” at what age her daughters would be “ready” to discuss sex.
Adding: âMy oldest daughter has always been very curious and I gave her age-appropriate answers about gender and used real names for the genitals.
“When the time comes, they might not want to talk about sex with me at all, and that’s fine.”
She said she taught them consent from an early age with activities such as cuddling.
Stephanie said she believes women should be able to know, wait and ask “for what feels good” rather than sex being “an act expected of them”.
“I am concerned that the lack of personal pleasure causes girls to have sex at an earlier age, without knowing how their bodies work, leaving them vulnerable to STDs, pregnancy and finding themselves in situations with it. which they are not comfortable with …
“I think it’s important to empower women not only to know what feels good, but to wait for it and even ask for it when they’re ready, instead of sex being just an act. that is expected of them, “she said.